Let’s Be Calm :)

Anxiety comes naturally to us & so do it’s pillion riders called hypertension, diabetes, thyroid, panic attacks..the list is limitless. Our mind loves playing tricks with us. We need to love outsmarting it 🙂

Use logic to quieten your distressed self. Be conscious of each moment, guys. Take in a few deep breaths when your mind starts racing & coaxes you into believing that some upheaval is near when that’s clearly not true.

A calm, mature approach to any situation is always desirable. Anxiety only breeds immaturity & less thought – out actions. Breathe, think & act, not the other way round !

Knowledge & Wisdom Are Different

They are cousins, belonging to the grand tree of learning but don’t share the exact same genes. There are so many knowledgeable people around but wise ones are hard to find. If you ever find one, make sure to assimilate and pass on that wisdom to as many as possible because, after all, sagacity makes a person grounded & purposeful while just being informative may breed arrogance.

Comfort Zone

Oh that feeling…yes,yes that one. It’s unsettling right? You just don’t wanna step out of that soft, velvety cocoon that you now live in. I get you, my friend.

It’s akin to being woken up from a deep slumber by an alarm clock on a Monday morning ! Who likes that but what needs to be done, needs to be done. It is imperative to get out of this comfort zone that we keep putting ourselves into or else we are only inviting inactivity.

Flowing water appears more cheerful than it’s still counterpart. So be like a river, always going with the flow, saying sayonara (bye) to the familiar & kon’nichiwa (hello) to the unknown in order to reach your own fullest potential. Don’t ever forget the known, for it taught you a lot but don’t be afraid of embracing the unknown either !

Believe In Yourself

“Oh, I should have done this. I should have said that then. How I wish I was more confident back then …. “

Familiar with these dialogues? Sure, we ALL are ! Aren’t these the same bullies who pay us an unsolicited visit every time we decide to walk on that less beaten track or when we start comparing ourselves with others ? Gosh, we really need to start respecting & loving our own selves.

Now, I’ll tell you something about bullies – they hide their insecurities behind aggression. That’s what regret (I rather call them learning) & under confidence also try to do with our minds – limit our ability to conquer the world by masking our cognition & emotion over a gloom of darkness. So what, if you didn’t achieve so-so thing before so-so time, you can very well go ahead & add so many new feathers to your cap.

LEARN from your past. Experiences exist to enrich us, not to demean us. Don’t beat yourself over what you could have done because in the process you’ll let go of what you can do. Don’t let your mind rule you, YOU should rule your mind.

You are a summation of the whole of your experiences & not a product of a few negative events that may have hit you like a cyclone. Understand yourself. Have compassion for yourself. There is no time limit for self enhancement, it’s a life long process. Move over your yesterdays to live a shining today & a fulfilling tomorrow. 🙂

‘Failure’ & Overthinking

Please, please, tell me which scripture or legal document says that not being successful in a task is a cardinal sin? None, I would like to believe. If it is not a ‘crime’ then why are people afraid of talking about their misfired adventures?

Life is not supposed to be flawless. I really wonder who put this idea in the minds of the human race that being unsuccessful is something to be ashamed of.

You tell me , you have learnt how to ride a cycle, swim or how to play the guitar, right? Did you learn everything & became a perfectionist from the word go? If yes, then, my friend, you are a supra human ! 🙂 otherwise mortals like me tend to try & try before we finally triumph.

Champions don’t emerge from the sky, they emerge from the masses but what makes them different from the majority is that they don’t believe in giving up, even when they feel that the world thinks they should.

Perseverance is a trait found in all those who want to or have realized the true meaning of life. By all means, fall, please do. Without falling, you won’t realize how to stand up on your own two feet. Tell me one person who has learnt to run without walking or one who has learnt to walk without falling down. I don’t think anyone like this really exists..

Humans overthink & believe that others are as bothered about their so calledfailures’ as they are but that’s far from truth. Everybody’s focal point revolves around their own life. They are as concerned about themselves as you are about yourself so don’t stress over what others would think, only focus on upping your game!

Why Can’t We Handle Criticism?

Often when someone points out our short coming, we tend to take it as a personal insult & make a face as to why this person is saying all that he/she is. This person could be a parent,friend,boss or even a stranger. We end up feeling unpleasant & start criticizing & pointing fingers at the other person in order to drive home the point that even he/she is not perfect..

Reacting like this to any negative feedback is more like a defense mechanism for a lot of people. Why do individuals rise up against an unpalatable critique? All of us know that all mortal beings are, by definition, imperfect then why do we make acknowledging that such a big ego hassle?

If put rightly then the feedback given by the person may still be accepted by us but if he/she decides to say the same thing in a slightly curt manner then suddenly all hell breaks loose & we get into an argument or start harboring a grudge for no rhyme-or-reason.

Learning to be conscious of our blemishes is the only way to emerge brighter than before! Master the art of keeping people who point out your weaknesses close to you because they are the ones who’ll refine you unlike sycophants who only know how to please.

Embracing Embarrassment :)

So many times we end up doing or saying something in a fit of rage, only to repent it immediately afterward. If done in a one off manner then our very old friend ‘sorry’ rescues us from the resulting embarrassment but if we keep getting into tricky situations with the same set of people way too frequently then even that sorry becomes meaningless.

Why do we behave like this? Why do we sometimes lose control? Why do we have to face that embarrassment – something that makes it difficult for us to even make eye contact with another person?

Even second hand embarrassment is very real – how many of you have cringed after seeing a mortifying scene on TV or in a movie? I, for one, have!

The best way to get past this instant feeling of awkwardness in real life is to face it head on. Use your own or borrowed wisdom. Make amends even if that just means maintaining self control. Sometimes silence & positive action from our side makes for greater atonement than spoken words (like sorry).

Blood Is Thicker Than Water…Or Is It?

Okay, let’s count as to how many families we see around us being broken & destroyed forever on materialistic issues like property & money.. Nah, never mind, we don’t have so many fingers!

This trend of ‘siblings’ & ‘relatives’ fighting each other like cats & dogs in order to have the ‘upper hand’ and ‘bigger share’ in financial matters within the household is eating up close knit families apart, thread-by-thread.

Yes, disagreements among family members have been a given since time immemorial – for that matter, you put a bunch of homo sapiens together in one house for more than a week & some sort of conflict is bound to happen(eg : the reality show Big Brother) because that’s how human nature is but those disagreements in the past didn’t turn relatives into ‘enemies’ battling court cases & passing nasty glares, as they do today. Life is a result of all kinds of experiences but turning those bad moments into fierce, acrimonious battles,which last forever, is just unfortunate. Apocalypse is here, friends.

All of us are on lease on this planet. A lease that can be renewed, at max, for approx 100 years. If we are all temporary residents then why are we so concerned about grabbing possessions instead of positive experiences & happy memories? At least be civil with each other, if you can’t always see eye-to-eye. By all means, aspire, inspire & be ambitious but not ruthless.

Judging Foodies

Food gives happiness & comfort to so many people. The kind of optimism it generates, the dopamine rush, seems to be quite exhilarating for foodies.

Those who live to eat are sometimes looked down by those who eat to live, I wonder why. Like others have hobbies like singing, painting, dancing etc which make them happy & help them to put their best foot forward, why can’t they understand that food makes foodies joyful..

Judgment comes so easily to humans, more like a heuristic but the thought of being empathetic doesn’t. Empathy would prevent so much of chaos in this world & make this place a better one to live in.