Kindness Is A Fashion Statement..

Which never goes out of vogue

In life, if there is one lesson that each and every child should imbibe, it is that what goes around, comes around. Being kind not only helps others around us but also helps us in the process. Our actions always catch up so it’s advisable to be as correct in our conduct & thoughts as we can be. Yes, life is not perfect but we can at least be conscious of our own behavior in order to shield ourselves from avoidable misery.

Love & peace to all !!

The Illusion Called ‘Perfection’

Imperfection isn’t such a bad thing, guys. It’s a trait we are all born with. Don’t be hard on yourself while trying to be your ‘ideal’ best all the time.

By their very make-up, life & physical environment on earth are imperfect. Trees are not painted picture-perfect green all the time, they also shed their leaves & stand bare to witness the wind. Flowers aren’t always facing the sun in all their glory, they also wither away with time. This is called the life cycle. Nature is pleasing as it is & so are we.

I am not saying don’t enhance yourself, please do. Shed your old skin for a newer, more positive, more confident YOU but don’t overkill & try to become ‘flawless’ in everything you do. That’s not possible, my friend. While always be the best version of yourself, remember that best doesn’t equal perfect. Even the best of chefs sometimes don’t whip up their specialty dishes in the most exemplary manner, even the best of consultants sometimes go astray in their domain areas. This is called being human. Let’s be humane about being human. ๐Ÿ™‚

We end up inviting mental & subsequent physical problems while chasing ‘perfection’ in every little sphere of our lives. Let go of some thoughts. Sometimes letting go liberates us mentally in ways I can’t even begin to describe in words! It’s a powerful feeling.

Love yourself while being a work-in-progress. Don’t wait for ‘so-&-so’ life event to happen before you start accepting your own self. Life is a journey, with new twists & turns everyday. Put your best foot forward in every situation, learn from every experience but don’t be overly critical when you are not ‘perfect’ according to your own/others’ ‘standards’. We are all learning as we live. Cherish the journey, the destination is not ‘perfection’ but gratitude – for all the learning & experiences. ๐Ÿ™‚

Parents’ Need To ‘Show Off’ Their Kids Warrants A Re-Look

” My daughter earns lakhs per year, your son doesn’t even have a stable job?”

“Oh my daughter just got a promotion & is getting such worthy marriage proposals, your daughter isn’t financially independent yet?

Aren’t these some typical conversations that we often see parents indulge in when talking about their off springs? It’s almost as if parents want to carry their off springs’ achievements as badges of honor to be displayed to the whole world – just to boost their own self esteem.

Are children equivalent to medals that need to be displayed to the world only to get some social validation? Why is it necessary for every child to follow the same, conventional route to gain ‘societal approval’?

If a child has the courage & perseverance to go after his/her dream & unfortunately fails to make a mark in the initial few years, why does society start seeing him/her in a different light? WHO SAYS THAT THAT SAME CHILD WON’T ACHIEVE GREAT HEIGHTS IN THE FUTURE? This is the reason why people get so crazy about achieving high grades in examinations – just to attain or maintain a high place in this stifling ‘society’.

Children are individuals in their own right, they will find their own way eventually. These days, sadly,nobody values people for what they are, their value is only determined by their designation. What the hell have we done, World? Where did we go so wrong??

Is it necessary for every person to reach the finish line at the same time? No it’s not & it isn’t even possible. Your child’s success should not determine your place in ‘society’, your behavior & values should. Nobody emphasizes on being a good human being anymore, everyone just wants a large pay package – which only comes in handy while paying hospital bills for all the non communicable diseases acquired while earning loads of money in their ‘stressful’ jobs.

I really PITY people who NEED to compare their children to those children who are, at the moment, supposedly ‘inferior’. Such people NEED to show someone else down, only to rise in their own eyes ! What a shame. Please understand, life is not a linear journey – it is full of ups & downs. After every morning there is an evening & vice versa. The same people who are often looked down by others, rise much much above later in life. Every human is unique – we can’t compare the five fingers in our hand – they have their own role to play so does every person on this planet.

Stop judging people on the basis of their ‘successes’ or ‘failures’. Make life more meaningful. Focus on positive relationships, happiness, motivation, values because, no matter what, in the end (say 80 years down the line) people will only remember, if at all, what kind of a human you were & not what your last pay drawn was. Live & let live ! ๐Ÿ™‚

Comfort Zone

Oh that feelingโ€ฆyes,yes that one. It’s unsettling right? You just don’t wanna step out of that soft, velvety cocoon that you now live in. I get you, my friend.

It’s akin to being woken up from a deep slumber by an alarm clock on a Monday morning ! Who likes that but what needs to be done, needs to be done. It is imperative to get out of this comfort zone that we keep putting ourselves into or else we are only inviting inactivity.

Flowing water appears more cheerful than it’s still counterpart. So be like a river, always going with the flow, saying sayonara (bye) to the familiar & kon’nichiwa (hello) to the unknown in order to reach your own fullest potential. Don’t ever forget the known, for it taught you a lot but don’t be afraid of embracing the unknown either !

Do I Sound Utopian?

Be the change you want to see in the world.

I am sure you have come across this quote way too many times. You have heard it, maybe rote learnt it for an exam too, but have you internalized it?

My writings speak of a more humane, peaceful, compassionate & less anxious world. Some of you may think I sound Utopian & that we can only do so much – at best change ourselves but not the people around us, so what’s the point in being so nice when others just go about their daily life without a care for virtues?

Good question, buddy but I have a counter for it ๐Ÿ™‚ Change starts from within us. If negativity multiplied in a domino effect why can’t positive thought & action counter it by being a greater force? If we all start to change bit-by-bit, this world would surely become a more congenial space to co-exist in.

Through vicarious learning people would start emulating you provided you start believing in being the force behind the CHANGE. Sustainable development of the human race is crucial for life to flourish in. We were NOT created to tolerate the ‘drudgery’ of life ! We were given the gift of life to make some good out of it not just for ourselves but for others too.

Take a step forward in the right direction, you’ll see an entire camaraderie rallying behind you. Call a spade, a spade. Stand up for what is right. Reject the wrong. Start with your own flaws. Leave impressive footprints for humanity to follow & learn from & one day you’ll look back feeling satisfied ๐Ÿ™‚

Help? Sure But Conditions Apply !

What’s in it for ME? What will I gain out of it? Why should I do this for YOU?

Be honest & ask yourself, aren’t these the questions that cross your mind whenever someone asks you to do something which doesn’t directly/ indirectly concern you? If you graciously decide to help then you make sure to maintain a mental note of all the things you have done & wait for the right time to get the favor returned. Am I right ?

Most adult relationships are a form of quid pro quo, always looking for a high Return-On-Investment. Where has all the goodness-for-the-sake-of-goodness gone? Did it ever exist in real or has it just been a part of our collective consciousness? Why are we always taught to be virtuous when vice comes more naturally to humans?

Looking out for someone without an ulterior motive is so rare that if some kind soul actually exists, he/she is made to feel like a saint or a Nobel Peace Prize winner – someone rooting for peace in a world where violence & anger exist organically but love & compassion need to be consciously developed !

Imagine a world where everyone thought of the other person before him/herself, forming a chain of benevolence. A space where unknown people were not suspected but thought of as those who would stand for what is right & would willing help a distressed person. This way wouldn’t we all be less anxious & happier souls?