Tag: marriage

Break Up/ Divorce

One wonders why this so called ‘society’ looks down on a couple who don’t want to be together anymore. Why is it such a big societal taboo to declare that this relationship didn’t work out & it’s time to move on? Moving on means the couple is hoping for better times in each of their lives & in their loved ones’ lives too. Is seeking happiness a crime in the eyes of the world?

It’s better to have two happy homes than to have one unhappy home. Often couples stick together for the sake of their children, not realizing that it’s those very children who would get impacted the most in the long term. Growing up, they’ll only see their parents fight & curse each other – which will plant the seeds of aggression, irritability, helplessness & commitment phobia in them. I sincerely believe that it is in the best interest of all the people involved to let go than to stick to a wound that will only degrade with time. Get a surgery done, remove the wound & live happily thereon.

As humans, we must realize that nothing, absolutely nothing, should come in the path of our own happiness. Why do we start sacrificing, trying to please others rather than pleasing our own selves? Hedonism isn’t such a bad thing, after all. I am not advocating irrational, selfish behavior, all I am saying is that instead of living a lie, it’s better to live with love & laughter. We are on this planet for a short while, let’s be joyful & spread cheer rather than living in gloom forever.

Love & Marriage

People are good at love but not necessarily at being married. Just look at all the married couples around you, some of them dated for years while some were mere acquaintances before tying the knot but all of them seem to be struggling through this institution called marriage at some point or the other.

So common is this phenomenon that many people simply avoid getting married all their lives even though they maybe going strong with their girlfriend/boyfriend for the longest time. Living the SAME life & making someone an important part of YOUR life are two completely different things.

The ‘opposites attract’ theory sounds thrilling during the courtship period but doesn’t necessarily hold in good stead after getting married. You tell me, if you & your partner are opposites in almost everything from food to clothes to idea of a perfect holiday to the overall outlook towards life, how will you ever find that much needed support for which people yearn to get married ?

For a stable marriage, mutual respect, friendship & a sense of similarity is imperative. Love fizzles out like the carbon dioxide present in soft drinks, what stays is the taste in the drink (and in the relationship). Try & make your relationship fundamentally sweet so that you are not dependent on the temporary fizz to make you happy 🙂