Hurry! Run Away…From Toxic People !!!

Meeting or even giving mind space to toxic people is such a waste of time. It’s pitiful how some people can ONLY & ONLY spew venom on others. In case you are wondering who these toxic people are, let me give you some of their common traits : bullying, taunting, labeling, ostracizing others, only to hide their own insecurities. I am sure you must have come across such prototypes at least once.

The situation becomes worse when our own so called ‘near & dear ones’ look down on us. Hurting people by excluding them, bad mouthing them, treating them like dirt for no plausible fault of the victim, is a sin which even the Universe doesn’t forgive so easily. Karma eventually catches up.

To all those who have ever felt unloved & unwanted, please remember you are BEAUTIFUL! If some people can’t appreciate your worth, it’s their misfortune, not yours. Cut & shut such toxicity from your life. Life is meant to be lived, not dragged. Focus on building your own life. The ability to move on is a trait that can be cultivated. Self love is the best form of love. Don’t let their venom kill your soul.

Love & peace to all !!

Kindness Is A Fashion Statement..

Which never goes out of vogue

In life, if there is one lesson that each and every child should imbibe, it is that what goes around, comes around. Being kind not only helps others around us but also helps us in the process. Our actions always catch up so it’s advisable to be as correct in our conduct & thoughts as we can be. Yes, life is not perfect but we can at least be conscious of our own behavior in order to shield ourselves from avoidable misery.

Love & peace to all !!

Love As An Emotion

Love – for a person/thing/place, is such a warm, cozy feeling. It has the power to make the world go round. It is way better than hate. Hatred only breeds negativity but love liberates. Of course it feels better to be loved than to just keep giving love, but even the latter is a very empowering feeling. I’d like to remind all those people who nurture and live on hate, to give warmth a chance. It not only would make them a much calmer & happier lot but also spread positive vibes in the air !!

Break Up/ Divorce

One wonders why this so called ‘society’ looks down on a couple who don’t want to be together anymore. Why is it such a big societal taboo to declare that this relationship didn’t work out & it’s time to move on? Moving on means the couple is hoping for better times in each of their lives & in their loved ones’ lives too. Is seeking happiness a crime in the eyes of the world?

It’s better to have two happy homes than to have one unhappy home. Often couples stick together for the sake of their children, not realizing that it’s those very children who would get impacted the most in the long term. Growing up, they’ll only see their parents fight & curse each other – which will plant the seeds of aggression, irritability, helplessness & commitment phobia in them. I sincerely believe that it is in the best interest of all the people involved to let go than to stick to a wound that will only degrade with time. Get a surgery done, remove the wound & live happily thereon.

As humans, we must realize that nothing, absolutely nothing, should come in the path of our own happiness. Why do we start sacrificing, trying to please others rather than pleasing our own selves? Hedonism isn’t such a bad thing, after all. I am not advocating irrational, selfish behavior, all I am saying is that instead of living a lie, it’s better to live with love & laughter. We are on this planet for a short while, let’s be joyful & spread cheer rather than living in gloom forever.

Challenging Opposition With Strength

Many times when we are trying to stand up on our own two feet or when we are trying to achieve something which the world thinks we can’t, we have to muster up all the courage we have, to stand strong in the face of opposition. There will always be people who would be ready to mock you, remind you of your past failures & make sure to drill into your head that you are absolutely incapable of leading a dignified life.

My friend, if you are reading this, please remember that YOU ARE GOING TO ROCK IT ! Never ever pay heed to naysayers! They don’t realise the potential you have hidden inside you. Stay your course, no matter what. In order to achieve something big, we often have to face big hurdles. Don’t shy away from them. These hurdles will only make you a much more resilient human. Thank such naysayers for instilling resilience in you since this trait is needed to lead life on your own terms. NEVER GIVE UP ON YOUR DREAMS. Work hard to fulfill them. Never lose hope. I promise, things will work out in your favour, eventually.

Empathy-less Folks Cut Such A Sorry Figure!

Have you ever had an encounter (an unfortunate one, though! ) with a person who simply lacks empathy (i.e. the ability to feel what another is going through)? How can such people ever truly be happy, I wonder. What would you say to a person who is bereft of emotions or someone who only reserves emotions like care for a select few (say, close family members) and not for anyone else?

I really feel sorry for such empathy less souls. To my mind, they don’t deserve to be called humans in the right sense simply because a person is just bones & flesh without emotions. Emotions are what set a human apart. Empathy is a trait only found in homo sapiens. Yes animals (especially dogs,horses etc) are intelligent but they can at best sympathize with their human masters. There is a difference between sympathy & empathy.

Such insensitive ‘humans’ eventually end up lonely in life because probably all they did was invest in money or career instead of investing in relationships as well. The quality of a person’s life is determined by only two factors – how happy they are & whether they have meaningful relationships to fall back on or not. Money can’t buy happiness, it’s a fact.

I would urge all those reading this article to develop compassion & empathy in themselves – it’s never too late to embrace positivity & virtues because please remember, in life, what goes around comes around. If we are rude & harsh, the world will also be mean to us but if we are kind, even the Universe would be kind in return.

May there be understanding & care in this world instead of selfishness & rudeness. To quote late Mr Michael Jackson’s song : “We are the world, we are the children, we are the ones who make a brighter day so let’s start giving“. Let’s start loving & living 🙂

The Illusion Called ‘Perfection’

Imperfection isn’t such a bad thing, guys. It’s a trait we are all born with. Don’t be hard on yourself while trying to be your ‘ideal’ best all the time.

By their very make-up, life & physical environment on earth are imperfect. Trees are not painted picture-perfect green all the time, they also shed their leaves & stand bare to witness the wind. Flowers aren’t always facing the sun in all their glory, they also wither away with time. This is called the life cycle. Nature is pleasing as it is & so are we.

I am not saying don’t enhance yourself, please do. Shed your old skin for a newer, more positive, more confident YOU but don’t overkill & try to become ‘flawless’ in everything you do. That’s not possible, my friend. While always be the best version of yourself, remember that best doesn’t equal perfect. Even the best of chefs sometimes don’t whip up their specialty dishes in the most exemplary manner, even the best of consultants sometimes go astray in their domain areas. This is called being human. Let’s be humane about being human. 🙂

We end up inviting mental & subsequent physical problems while chasing ‘perfection’ in every little sphere of our lives. Let go of some thoughts. Sometimes letting go liberates us mentally in ways I can’t even begin to describe in words! It’s a powerful feeling.

Love yourself while being a work-in-progress. Don’t wait for ‘so-&-so’ life event to happen before you start accepting your own self. Life is a journey, with new twists & turns everyday. Put your best foot forward in every situation, learn from every experience but don’t be overly critical when you are not ‘perfect’ according to your own/others’ ‘standards’. We are all learning as we live. Cherish the journey, the destination is not ‘perfection’ but gratitude – for all the learning & experiences. 🙂

Love & Marriage

People are good at love but not necessarily at being married. Just look at all the married couples around you, some of them dated for years while some were mere acquaintances before tying the knot but all of them seem to be struggling through this institution called marriage at some point or the other.

So common is this phenomenon that many people simply avoid getting married all their lives even though they maybe going strong with their girlfriend/boyfriend for the longest time. Living the SAME life & making someone an important part of YOUR life are two completely different things.

The ‘opposites attract’ theory sounds thrilling during the courtship period but doesn’t necessarily hold in good stead after getting married. You tell me, if you & your partner are opposites in almost everything from food to clothes to idea of a perfect holiday to the overall outlook towards life, how will you ever find that much needed support for which people yearn to get married ?

For a stable marriage, mutual respect, friendship & a sense of similarity is imperative. Love fizzles out like the carbon dioxide present in soft drinks, what stays is the taste in the drink (and in the relationship). Try & make your relationship fundamentally sweet so that you are not dependent on the temporary fizz to make you happy 🙂

Do I Sound Utopian?

Be the change you want to see in the world.

I am sure you have come across this quote way too many times. You have heard it, maybe rote learnt it for an exam too, but have you internalized it?

My writings speak of a more humane, peaceful, compassionate & less anxious world. Some of you may think I sound Utopian & that we can only do so much – at best change ourselves but not the people around us, so what’s the point in being so nice when others just go about their daily life without a care for virtues?

Good question, buddy but I have a counter for it 🙂 Change starts from within us. If negativity multiplied in a domino effect why can’t positive thought & action counter it by being a greater force? If we all start to change bit-by-bit, this world would surely become a more congenial space to co-exist in.

Through vicarious learning people would start emulating you provided you start believing in being the force behind the CHANGE. Sustainable development of the human race is crucial for life to flourish in. We were NOT created to tolerate the ‘drudgery’ of life ! We were given the gift of life to make some good out of it not just for ourselves but for others too.

Take a step forward in the right direction, you’ll see an entire camaraderie rallying behind you. Call a spade, a spade. Stand up for what is right. Reject the wrong. Start with your own flaws. Leave impressive footprints for humanity to follow & learn from & one day you’ll look back feeling satisfied 🙂

Help? Sure But Conditions Apply !

What’s in it for ME? What will I gain out of it? Why should I do this for YOU?

Be honest & ask yourself, aren’t these the questions that cross your mind whenever someone asks you to do something which doesn’t directly/ indirectly concern you? If you graciously decide to help then you make sure to maintain a mental note of all the things you have done & wait for the right time to get the favor returned. Am I right ?

Most adult relationships are a form of quid pro quo, always looking for a high Return-On-Investment. Where has all the goodness-for-the-sake-of-goodness gone? Did it ever exist in real or has it just been a part of our collective consciousness? Why are we always taught to be virtuous when vice comes more naturally to humans?

Looking out for someone without an ulterior motive is so rare that if some kind soul actually exists, he/she is made to feel like a saint or a Nobel Peace Prize winner – someone rooting for peace in a world where violence & anger exist organically but love & compassion need to be consciously developed !

Imagine a world where everyone thought of the other person before him/herself, forming a chain of benevolence. A space where unknown people were not suspected but thought of as those who would stand for what is right & would willing help a distressed person. This way wouldn’t we all be less anxious & happier souls?